Issue No. 10: At A First Glance

Written By: Laura Brooks

Although we don’t like to admit it, a lot of our judgements are based on the first time we meet someone. It is your primary thought of them; therefore, it holds more weight. This is why first impressions are significant to make people see what you want them to see about you. First impressions can be intimidating because of how much impact it has on someone’s perception of you. Whether you’re about to meet your new boss or being introduced to a friend of a friend, it is important to remind yourself of these tactics that could contribute positively to another person's opinion of you.

Wait, but shouldn’t we not care about what others think about us? In short, yes… but only to a degree. You should be content with yourself and what you are doing and how you are contributing to your happiness. But when it comes to situations such as interviews, promoting ideas to a group of people, or even meeting someone’s family, you should care about how you come across to others and how you present yourself/your ideas. Experts say that first impressions are made up 55% visually, 38% vocally, and 7% verbally. This means that judgements are primarily made up of by what the person sees. To make a great first impression, be confident and dress appropriately. These two qualities will be what the person visually sees first. For example, for an interview, make sure your clothes are the suitable attire for the organization you are either being interviewed for, or being the interviewer of. Confidence is so tangible and obvious, so make sure you use that in a positive way. Don’t be conceited, but instead indicate that you know you have a lot to offer.

The next thing a person notices when being introduced is the vocal attribute. Vocal is how you say it, or the inflection in your voice. It is evident when someone has attitude or indifference in their tone of voice, so try to avoid that when making a first impression. Sounding interested and speaking with intent is the best way to make the other person feel that they are being listened to.

Finally, what you hear vocally is what the person observes next. Be thoughtful of what you say and say it with confidence and class. If you are about to have an interview, have some answers prepared for questions the interviewer may ask (your weaknesses/strengths, past experience, etc.). This will allow you to walk in more confidently and be more prepared.

First impressions can be daunting, and some of us dread them. Many people are scared to meet new people because they don’t want someone to misjudge them by their first impression. But don’t let the fear and anxiety of other’s opinions impede on you from meeting new people and living your life. Yes, first impressions are significant. But that should not give you distress; it should make you want to strive to give the best first impression you possibly can. Don’t change who you are and what makes you unique to make sure you leave them impressed, but instead emphasize everything that makes you who you are and all of the great qualities so you can leave them hoping that it won’t be their last time to see you.

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